Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Push Presents

I recently stumbled upon this term.  I wasn't sure the meaning behind until I Googled for more information.  Apparently, it is a growing trend in the U.S., and it is already popular in England and India.  It is a gift for a new mom given by the dad of the baby.  More moms in the U.S. are pushing their husbands/boyfriends/father of baby to give them a present for having his child.  Honestly, I have mixed feelings about this concept.  It just seems a bit odd and almost greedy to me.  I know it is definitely not easy being pregnant, but it is what you have to do if you want to have a kid.  (Okay, I know it is not the only way, but it is the most popular way.)  For me, I really don't need jewelry I will hardly wear or for my husband to spend a lot of money on me as a thank you for pushing his kid out.  It is my kid too.  I agreed to get pregnant.  It is nice to be acknowledged about how difficult pregnancy can be, but pricey gifts seem to be over the top.  I would be happy if my husband helped out around the house a bit more so I am not so sore at the end of the day.  He has been doing that...at least he is taking over more Hannah responsibility while he can.  I guess I am baffled by this concept.  Of course Valentine's Day also baffles me.  Maybe I am not sentimental enough to understand the reasoning behind it.  Maybe I am cheap.  Or maybe I think the baby is the gift.


  1. I'm with you on this one. I had a really difficult pregnancy and not only was it hard on me, it was hard on my husband as well. My daughter is certainly the best gift life can give, and I don't feel like I missed anything not having a "push present". It never even crossed my mind, actually. The best gift I got at that time was my from my parents. The brought flowers and food to my house the day I came home. That's my kind of push present - not having to cook.

    1. Food is definitely a great gift, and it benefits both parents!

  2. I'm with you on the push presents. It's not like we had a discussion about which one of us would carry the baby. That was sort of a given, and I want this child as much as he does so... I don't know. I think it's ridiculous.

  3. I think it's crazy! Since when has the baby you just gave birth to become not enough of a gift. Makes me sad.

  4. I definitely get push presents. With my daughter it was a diamond ring. I have worn it every day since she was born. :)

  5. Hubby brought me home whatever food I wanted. That, and being in the delivery room, holding my hand, was present enough. But, everyone has their own ways of expressing their happiness/guilt/whatever to each other. Personally, no need for that sort of thing for me. :)

  6. I think it's nice if it comes from him. But, if a woman is having to tell her husband to buy something for her, she might as well just go out and buy her own present.

  7. I've heard of these, love the idea :)

  8. My husband did his own spin on the "push present" which took away all the greed and materialism of the gift.


    He bought me a gorgeous diamond band that he called a "family band."

    He told me that he gave me the engagement ring to symbolize him falling in love with me.

    He told me that he gave me the wedding band to symbolize spending his life with me.

    And then he gave me this family band to symbolize his intention to grow a family with me.

    I just love it and wear it every.single.day. :)


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