Saturday, October 20, 2012
Fitting In
I feel like I don't quite fit in here. It seems like everyone has a good, close friend they can hang out with and have the girly day with except for me. I am sure it isn't true, but when I hear stories of people hanging out I feel bummed. I am invited to do things around our complex, but it is with Hannah so their kids can play with her. With only having one car, it makes it difficult to attend a lot of functions, but I go when I can so at least I am making the effort to meet people. There are cliques for sure. I feel like a kid again trying to fit in with all the cool kids. I guess I will keep trying and hope I find a few that I really click with so I don't feel so alone. This is when I miss home the most. I miss my friends. I hate being far away from them.
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I feel the same way a lot. I am starting to make friends here though (after a year). Hang in there.
ReplyDeleteI know just what you mean. When Hubby and I first moved away from Hometown we missed our circle. But we were (especially I was) glad to separate and create my own bubble. It took time, but we're getting there. Feels more like home with every season that passes.
ReplyDeleteThanks! I am trying to make this place feel like home for the amount of time we have left. Some days are definitely better than others.
DeleteI relate to this so much. It's hard to uproot and start over again so many times, and once you have kids it can feel like they're the only basis you have for friendships. Good luck finding your spot.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you --
Thanks! I can't wait until we are in one city for 3 or 4 years instead of a year or less. It is tough to form friendships when you know everyone is leaving in a few months.
DeleteI was thinking the same thing today! And I was also thinking how there's no place we could go back to where it's guaranteed to feel different... people are always moving away.
ReplyDeleteIt does feel extra hard with kids. If your children aren't in the same place developmentally (or at school all day), it makes scheduling get-togethers really challenging.
I've been here a year and a half and keep waiting to find that kindred spirit who lives in the neighborhood – maybe we aren't meant to find that person every single place we go?
I wonder as well some days. I have met some great women, but I feel like I am more of an acquaintance instead of a friend. Does that make sense?
DeleteThat's the hardest part of military life for me. We've never managed to be in one place for more than a year and a half (other than McChord, but I moved up halfway through that, so it was STILL only a year and a half for me). You learn how to not let the time you'll be there matter and make friends anyway, but it's definitely something that takes time to learn!
ReplyDeleteIt is tough especially with the training schedule. It will probably be another 2 years before my husband has finished training and we will be at a real duty station. I am trying to figure out how to make friends quickly.
DeleteI understand. I'm shy so it's hard for me to meet people.
ReplyDeleteI know where you're coming from. It's so hard to stay in touch with people when you move so frequently and by the time I do get comfortable, off we go to the next place. My hubby and I also have one car which can be a real pain when trying to make plans with someone.
ReplyDeleteIt is tough with one car to make plans or meet people. I just wish it was easier to meet people.
DeleteI am so sorry :( I know sometimes I feel trouble connecting with people. It will all happen when it's supposed to.
ReplyDeleteSorry. Making friends in adulthood is hard. Give it time.
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