Saturday, March 2, 2013

I am pretty sure I suck

With the husband back to work, I have been home alone all day.  Last time I was in this situation I only had one kid.  Now that I have two, I feel like a freaking basket case every day.  Between household chores, feeding Meeghan, pumping for Meeghan, and then my very difficult toddler I feel like the day is just nuts.  I have done a terrible job of balancing everything.  Some days I think it would be better for my sanity to find a job and put the kids in day care.  I am not sure I am meant to be a stay at home mom. It is at the point that some days I don't even want to be around Hannah.  I feel horrible for even writing that.  The days feel so long.  I am usually at my breaking point before lunch.  I wonder how other women do it and make it look so easy.  I know other women out there would give their left arm to be in my position which is why I feel like a spoiled brat for even talking about this.  I lost my patience so quickly that I end up saying things I don't mean.  Yesterday I tried to forget about all the housework I needed to do, and played with Hannah all morning. It made the day better, but by lunch she is in prime form.  Then I get a guilt trip when the husband is home because I am behind on laundry or haven't unpacked boxes.  It feels like I can't win no matter what I do. The lack of sleep due to pumping during the night isn't helping.  Meeghan sleeps through the night, but to keep my supply I am pumping every 3 hours even during the night.  I am at the point though where I want my life back and want to quit.  I am hoping I can hold out another 3 months to make my 6 month goal.

That leads me to my kids.  I can't believe that in 4 days my baby will be 3 months old. I have said it every month, but I can't believe how fast the time is going.  She is starting to talk to me and interact with us more.  She is even trying to play.  I am still waiting for those first baby giggles, but it seems like she is getting close.  Hannah is becoming difficult. I am not sure if it is the age or if this is her personality, but she is becoming defiant, stubborn, and bossy.  I know some is due to boredom. I am one person trying to be available to 5 people (if you include the husband and the dogs who are just as needy as the kids.  The dogs that is not the husband.)  Hannah has been asking to go to school so I have been researching preschools and mother's day out programs around here. I found one that seems promising.  I am going to check it out on Monday.  The biggest problem is money.  The budget is so tight already, but I will find a way to make it work because I think she needs it.  I just hope she is over that separation anxiety issue she had a few months ago. I have told her I can't stay with her at school and she said she understands. I know she wants to go so bad.  She stands at the window telling the school bus not to leave without her. That broke my heart so I will definitely find a way to get her into some sort of program.  I was going to do a little homeschooling session with her, but I think we would both benefit from a few hours apart during the week.  I am hoping between her time at school, and more sleep in my future, we will get back to the fun we used to have.

Lastly, I will leave you with a picture of the view of the bay from the guest room/office.  I had to steal it from the husband's phone since I haven't had a chance to take pictures yet.  I need to get one of the sunrise, but I usually try to sneak back to bed at that hour.


  1. You do not suck! You are doing a great job! I never know what a hard job was until I become a mom. Literally the hardest things I've ever done.
    I stay home with one little munchkin, and I'm texting my husband by 10AM when he thinks he'll be coming home.
    For the sake of my sanity, and to keep my son from totally getting bored with me before lunch, I had to join a "baby" gym. We go once a week, and things have gotten better.
    If you're in the SoCal area I have a list of a few mommy and me groups that meet up for a relatively low cost.

  2. You do not suck! You can do this. :)

  3. You don't suck at all!

    And that's a beautiful view.

  4. You don't suck. I feel like that a lot, too. Some days are wonderful and easy and some have me running to craigslist looking for jobs. Ha! I wouldn't trade my "job" for anything in the world, but there are days that I would tell you otherwise. It's ok to feel that way.

  5. Ok couple of things...All those feelings are feelings that every mom gets!! I am working and there are those days I am so tired of pumping or its just not convenient and I just want to go back to being a stay at home mom! And with your oldest starting to get the sass, well, it will get better. When LF hit 2 1/2 it was like my world was turned upside down. Testing me and testing me and sassing me. Phew. BUT she is almost 3 1/2 and it is like the light turned on and she is finally getting the rules!! SO, take a deep breath, remind your husband that you NEVER get a break being a stay at home mom, and that the laundry will fold itself tomorrow! HA!

    1. It is so nice to hear that they do get better! The toddler attitude is really bringing me down.

      Wouldn't it be great if the laundry did fold itself? That would save me so much time during the day. :)


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