Monday, January 21, 2013
Lately, I have begun to notice that the husband and I have very different parenting styles. When Hannah was an infant, we had the same philosophy on how to raise her. Now that she has turned into a very feisty toddler, our approach is very different. For instance, he will spank and flick her on the head if she has done something wrong. I refuse to do any of that. If she is misbehaving I try to talk to her first while she is in time out. He will spank and then put her in time out. He threatens with more spanking while I will threaten to take her favorite toy away for a day. I can tell by our parenting styles that we were raised completely different. I was raised by parents who did threaten to spank me, but never did. Instead of grounding me or sending me to my room, I would have to write an essay about what I did wrong or even do community service work. My parents didn't use traditional methods to punish me. The husband on the other hand was hit with a belt if he did something wrong. I have told him that it makes me uncomfortable to watch him spank her, and I would like him to stop. He said he won't because it is the only way she will learn. This is definitely causing a problem between the two of us. I am not sure how to fix it. I would say we both need to compromise, but I don't know what the middle ground would be. Have any of you dealt with this before? I am at a loss on how to fix it.